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2013-06-13 12:08 pm

Seanan McGuire (Mira Grant) podcast interview = awesome

This interview with Seanan McGuire (aka Mira Grant) is awesome. Topics include being a female author in a male-dominated genre, being devalued due to gender, male vs female book covers, and the current controversy about misogyny in the SFWA newsletter, along with lots of other really interesting discussions. (language NSFW)

http://anglofilles.madeoffail.net/episodes/anglofilles-episode-9-incredibly-candy-colored-extremely-depressing/
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2012-12-30 08:01 pm

Peter David has had a stroke

http://www.peterdavid.net/2012/12/30/i-have-had-a-stroke/

I have fond memories of hanging out with him on several occasions, and I hope he makes a strong recovery.
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2012-04-07 11:40 pm
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I wouldn't think I'd need to say this, but apparently I do

Seriously - if you're going to enter a contest to try to get your novel published, SPELL CHECK THE MANUSCRIPT. It's a basic courtesy.
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2012-03-13 10:31 pm

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Of all the songs I thought I might find on Just Dance 3, I would never have suspected "Let's Go to the Mall" by Robin Sparkles.
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2012-02-06 09:18 pm

rapists think all men rape

I read this in 2011 and it stuck with me. I found it again because I needed to post it on FB in response to rape "jokes" my nephew's friends posted in comments to something he said. I'm posting it here so I can always find it, and in case some of you haven't seen it.

http://dbzer0.com/blog/feminists-dont-think-all-men-are-rapists-rapists-do


Note: Many people on Reddit have expressed the sentiment that while they agree with the substance, they have a problem with the condescending tone. This is because the comment I'm reposting was on a blog post and was made in response to a guy who was actually arguing that it's okay for him to make rape jokes with his friends. While it starts by addressing all men, it's coloured by the reaction to that particular guy.]

To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.
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2012-02-06 10:48 am

relationship tips from Lifehacker

I think we do very well with the things on this list, but I want to paste this here so I can remember it:


  • Don’t let resentment build, deal with issues one at a time and as soon as they arise
  • Stop trying to control or manipulate your partner’s feelings or actions
  • Share your hopes, dreams and wishes
  • Share your fears
  • Be honest with yourself
  • Share your vulnerability instead of your anger
  • Express your disappointment gently
  • Check that you both have signed on to the same contract (Explain what you think the unwritten rules are)
  • Admit when you don’t know what to do
  • Admit it when you think you may have made a mistake


source: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/naming-elephants-10-ways-to-use-radical-honesty-to-improve-your-relationship.html
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2012-01-20 07:32 am

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"Missing someone isn't about how long it's been since you've seen them last or
the amount of time since you've talked. It's about that very moment when you're
doing something and you wish that they were right there with you." - anon
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2012-01-18 01:42 pm

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Whooop! LivingSocial has a coupon today for Fabric Place Basement in Natick: $15 gets you $30 worth of merchandise. This could be especially nice since FPB just sent an email about having 100% wool from $6-10/yd and 100% silk in many weights for $10/yd, along with thousands of bolts of 100% cotton.

Please use my link if you buy: https://www.livingsocial.com/deals/208034?ref=conf-jp&rpi=44115640
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2012-01-04 10:25 am

Wii games reviews

I bought some used games at Game Stop over vacation. We also got two used games as hand-overs.

Star Wars Light Saber Battles: Unlike the Wii Sports Resort swordfighting, this actually requires more than just bashing your opponent. Each of 10 characters has special moves, and you have an amount of Force to use as well as health. You can pick up and throw big objects during the fight. You can jump, do flips, and combine attacks. It makes full use of the Wii Motion and nunchuck, and you're using both hands (nunchuck to move and use special attacks, Wiimote to weild the light saber). Dan and the boys love this one. I think it's cool. It stays.

Sonic and Sega Friends Cart Racing: Z has been asking for MarioCart, but we've been resisting because we're not a fan of the graphics or the aggressive tactics. I picked up two other cart racers to see if we liked them. Sonic and Sega Friends is fun, has pretty good graphics, and the driving is a bit easier (less sensitive) than Mario. Since we used to play Sega and I loved Sonic, this game appeals to me. Z likes it, Dan likes it, I like it, E watches for now, it stays.

My Sims Racing: It advertises building your own cars, but it's not very interesting. You can choose between weight, speed, and maneuverability, and you can race as your Mii. Still, the tracks were kind of boring, and it didn't engage us as much as Sonic. This one goes back to the store.

My Sims Kingdom: This is a single-player Sims game set in a fantasy kingdom with magic. Your character earns a wand and needs to go around the kingdom and help people. Along the way you have to gather the materials needed for your spells, earn scrolls that teach you how to build things, interact with the other characters, and meet goals. I played the first hour of this, and everyone stayed to watch. Z has been playing it since, and we all stay and watch. It's engaging, cooperative within the game, and interesting to watch. This one stays.

Escape the Museum: The boys love puzzles, including the 'hidden pictures' part of their puzzle magazines, so I picked up this game because I thought it would be a fun family activity. It was not. Right from the start it looked like it had a very low budget - the cartoon-drawn characters didn't move and spoke in text blocks that frequently covered their faces, and the drawings of the museum rooms are very static. The puzzles are reasonable and looked like they'd be fun and interesting, but they're not because of the way the game is executed. To find anything, you have to zoom the screen. Once you have zoomed the screen, you need to move the cursor over every little part of the room to locate some items because they are really very well hidden. A lot of things are found by luck. This inch by inch examination got very old after the first three rooms. I was also bothered by some of the "priceless treasures" being things like a sneaker and a roll of tickets, but that's a design issue. When we started the game, the boys were interested and engaged. They loved spotting the hidden objects, but then got frustrated. The put-things-together puzzles were too simple for them, and they started to lose interest. E lasted about 30 minutes total before he wandered off. Z wandered off about 10 minutes after that. When I reached an hour of play with the game and realized it was just the same sort of thing over and over with minor variations, I shut the game down. No one is interested in playing it at all again. This one goes back.

Worms Battle Island: You play a worm learning how to use armaments. Not a lot of strategy, graphics are eh, and the Wiimote is used like an old-style game controller. Z liked it, no one else did, we can find something better if he just wants to blow stuff up, it goes back.

Ninja Reflex: [livejournal.com profile] marysdress gave us this one. Dan loves it. The boys haven't had a chance to play, but want to. I think it's neat. It stays.

EA Sports Active: Another one from [livejournal.com profile] marysdress. This is like having a personal trainer guide you through mixed workouts - walking, running, in-line skating, tennis, boxing, lunges, curls, squats, etc. I did a workout this morning. It stays.

Also trading in:

Bakugan: Defenders of the Core: I bought this one for Z. He has another Bakugan Wii game where he plays a kid using a Bakugan ball pretty much like he would in real life - aim, roll, try to get it to open, battle the other guy (this part he really likes). In DotC, the Bakugan are in their full cartoon form as monsters, and you need the Wiimote and nunchuck to run the monster around the arena and battle other Bakugan. I thought he'd like it because it's like an advanced version of the now-defunct online Bakugan game he used to play. He hates it and never wants to play it again. It gets traded in.

Winter Sports: This is an Olympics-based sports game. The remote is used poorly, and the game is really hard and not fun. Sports Resort blows it out of the water. We played it once and should have returned it. Now we're trading it in.
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2012-01-01 02:27 pm

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I think part of what has made the Occupy movement powerful is the idea that we should not be passive about things we think should be changed. And you don't need to be a protester to make things happen - just be a voice that points out something simple could add some positive energy to the world. I would like to hold up as an example my sister, who this morning made a difference for group of people by speaking up.

Waiting in line for security at the airport, she learned there was a group of people behind her who were going to miss their flight unless they went ahead of everyone else immediately. She got people's attention, polled the lines to see if anyone minded those people skipping ahead, and got cooperation. All 7-8 expedited people were grateful, and when it was announced shortly afterward that all of them ended up making their flight, the crowd cheered. Several thanked my sister for taking action. I'm sure many of those people got some warm glow from helping get those people on their flight, and perhaps at least some of them might take their own opportunities to help other people in the future.

As my sister says, "Kindness and consideration. It's a lifestyle. And sometimes it requires active participation. Happy Golden Rule new year!"

Yes, that would be a really lovely 2012. And beyond!
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2011-11-11 11:34 am

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Okay, at least Google is trying. There's an update to GReader today that makes it less ugly. Not as easy to read as V.1, but tons better than V.2.
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2011-11-11 11:34 am

(no subject)

Okay, at least Google is trying. There's an update to GReader today that makes it less ugly. Not as easy to read as V.1, but tons better than V.2.
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2011-09-19 11:33 am
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Lifted from [livejournal.com profile] james_nicoll;

Andrew Wheeler on What Makes a Good Review?


Most books deserve mixed reviews; as the saying goes, a novel is a long piece of prose with something wrong with it. An honest reviewer honors that, dredging out the clumsy bits in the books she loves and talking about the elegant moments in the books she loathed ...

That makes me feel good about the YA review I just sent in about 10 minutes ago. I really liked the book, but didn't give it a star because it had some throwaway relationships that should have been better developed, or at least had an acknowledgment of why they were so shallow. I mentioned that flaw in the review, just as I try to say something positive if I can about a book I didn't like.

This is a very good article about reviews and reviewing, and not just for those doing the writing, but for those reading reviews as well. It hits many points [livejournal.com profile] rosefox has always emphasized, including encouraging her bullpen to think about the appropriate market for whatever we're reading, and if we're not part of that market, to try to see the book through those eyes anyway. She trains us up right, and I think it shows in how many of us start working for her and end up reviewing for other editors, too.
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2011-09-19 11:33 am
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Lifted from [livejournal.com profile] james_nicoll;

Andrew Wheeler on What Makes a Good Review?


Most books deserve mixed reviews; as the saying goes, a novel is a long piece of prose with something wrong with it. An honest reviewer honors that, dredging out the clumsy bits in the books she loves and talking about the elegant moments in the books she loathed ...

That makes me feel good about the YA review I just sent in about 10 minutes ago. I really liked the book, but didn't give it a star because it had some throwaway relationships that should have been better developed, or at least had an acknowledgment of why they were so shallow. I mentioned that flaw in the review, just as I try to say something positive if I can about a book I didn't like.

This is a very good article about reviews and reviewing, and not just for those doing the writing, but for those reading reviews as well. It hits many points [livejournal.com profile] rosefox has always emphasized, including encouraging her bullpen to think about the appropriate market for whatever we're reading, and if we're not part of that market, to try to see the book through those eyes anyway. She trains us up right, and I think it shows in how many of us start working for her and end up reviewing for other editors, too.
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2011-08-22 03:29 pm
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"Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we'll change the world." ~Jack Layton.
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2011-08-22 03:29 pm
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"Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we'll change the world." ~Jack Layton.
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2011-06-29 11:04 am
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CSA week 3

picked 8 from a choice of 13;

1 bunch scallions
1 bunch rainbow chard
1 bunch collard greens
2 heads butter lettuce
1 bunch escarole
1 bunch radishes
1 bunch salad turnips
1 bunch kohlrabi

(did not take: squash [1 piece? bah.], spinach [still left from last week's bounty], frisee [not really my thing], napa cabbage [just bought some], arugula)


pick your own (haven't done this yet);
strawberries - hunt and try your luck
snow peas - take what you'll use
snap peas - 1 pt
cilantro - 1 small bunch
basil
fava beans - 10 pods
flowers and herbs as desired
elizabear: (Default)
2011-06-29 11:04 am
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CSA week 3

picked 8 from a choice of 13;

1 bunch scallions
1 bunch rainbow chard
1 bunch collard greens
2 heads butter lettuce
1 bunch escarole
1 bunch radishes
1 bunch salad turnips
1 bunch kohlrabi

(did not take: squash [1 piece? bah.], spinach [still left from last week's bounty], frisee [not really my thing], napa cabbage [just bought some], arugula)


pick your own (haven't done this yet);
strawberries - hunt and try your luck
snow peas - take what you'll use
snap peas - 1 pt
cilantro - 1 small bunch
basil
fava beans - 10 pods
flowers and herbs as desired